As you sit back and relax, you find yourself thinking about the decision you made yesterday.
Or from a year ago
Or just a few hours ago
You’re wondering,“Did I make the right decision?”
We all go through ups and downs.
But how do we handle things when everything is in devastation?
We all have heard of the famous saying, “Everything happens for a reason.”
Someone got fired at work. His girlfriend comforts him and says, “Everything happens for a reason.”
A student failed to graduate due to signature forging. Her parents got dismayed but, “Everything happens for a reason.”
Married couple filed an annulment after fifteen years of being together. They wonder how they didn’t see through those wasted time but, “Everything happens for a reason.”
Daughter built her parents a house after saving enough money for how many years of working abroad, but a devastating blow of earthquake has occurred.
I hear you say, “Everything happens for a reason.”
A teenager ended his life due to depression and bullying.
Still…
“Everything happens for a reason.”
With all the tragedies, cataclysm, adversities, misfortunes, hardships,
We make it less painful by thinking that
Everything happens for a reason.
But… does it?
I wrote this content because I myself questioned this belief just like you.
Probably you do because you’re here, reading this.
Years ago, I’ve been counting on it whenever I go through something unfortunate.
Even until now, but in a different way this time.
I’ve been relying on that belief and just waited for life to surprise me.
But as I wait, and wait, and wait… it seems like everything’s just a cycle.
“There will be times of low as well as high energy. There will be periods when you are highly active and creative, but there may also be times when everything seems stagnant, when it seems that you are not getting anywhere. A cycle can last for anything from a few hours to few years, large cycles and small cycles.”
Eckhart Tolle
You see,
We all go through highs and lows.
We all have seen catastrophe as well as windfalls in life situations.
That’s the Law of Rhythm.
This law of the Universe is not only seen in our life situations.
Look at how our day goes by.
There is morning sunrise after the dawn, and there is sunset as the dusk come.
Look at how the nature is designed.
There is summer after the spring, and there is winter as the fall end (for southern and northern countries).
There is wet season and dry season (for tropical countries near the equator).
Obviously, there is the sun for the day, and there is the moon for the night.
“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”
The Kybalion
Have you ever noticed?
Sometimes we thought we made a good decision, and yet in the end everything just seems to be falling apart.
And there are also times when we thought we made a bad decision, but eventually everything just fell into the right places.
The truth is,
There is no right or wrong decision.
It’s just how the Law of Rhythm is designed.
We made a seemingly good decision in the phase of low rhythm,
Or we made a seemingly bad decision in the phase of high rhythm.
Sometimes, if lucky, we make a seemingly good decision in the phase of high rhythm.
There is no right or wrong decision,
But there’s a good and bad reaction after the decision.
You make a choice on how to handle things.
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I have a friend; let’s say her name is Aria to cover up her identity.
She took a job opportunity away from the country where it has a very good compensation which she can provide her aging parents a better living,
But which can also put her relationship with her boyfriend to a higher risk.
She and her boyfriend know the consequences and risks that it has for their relationship, but they decided to face the challenge.
As she started her job, she had a hard time adjusting to the new environment and the work itself.
It’s never an easy job at the start especially when you’re away from the people you care the most.
But she’s brave and determined with her goal.
She’s holding on to it so well.
As she learned how to get to know the people around her, she made a friend with a colleague she admires.
The guy is nice to her and everything’s not as hard as it was anymore as they became comfortable with each other.
As time goes by, everything went too comfortable.
They knew where it’s leading them, and they know it’s not right.
But they made a decision to keep doing it.
After a month of their lingering infatuation, Aria got pregnant.
The worst part is that she found out that the guy is married.
What the…?!
She left the job and confessed to her family, and to her boyfriend, about everything.
She blamed herself deeply for what has happened.
She couldn’t even bring herself to face and talk to her boyfriend.
She broke up with him out of guilt, fear, and self-loathing that she doesn’t deserve him.
But, surprisingly, he still wants to be with her.
His love for her was enough to overlook the mistakes and has deeper understanding of the reasons why she made them.
They both made the decision to stay together and raise the child.
After a couple of years, she found a new job that’s generally good for her.
Her daughter has grown into a beautiful girl and being a mother has changed her into the best version of herself.
Her beautiful girl has changed her life – more meaningful and blossoming.
Can you still say the decision was a mistake?
When you make a decision, you follow your heart and it’s either you win or you lose.
Not by realizing that you chose a good or bad choice, but by choosing your reaction afterwards.
No matter how great, or no matter how worse the current situation is.
It’s in how you react to the situation that makes everything happen for a reason.
So,
How do you make something happen for a reason?
Your choice!
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