“Birds of the same feather flock together.”
Ever noticed in your group of friends that you guys have more similarities than most people around you?
And those of opposite personalities or far from your characteristics are mostly out of your circle, or at least not very comfortable with each other.
But on the other hand, you also tend to get attracted to people opposite of who you are.
As most people say, “opposites attract.”
Before we talk about how you attract who you are, let’s delve into why opposites attract first to clear our confusion.
For relationships in general, and especially in romantic relationships, which do you think lasts longer;
Is it the pair with opposite aspects?
…or the pair with more similarities?
Let’s find out as you read along.
The Truth About Opposites Attract
For romantic partners, if not most, some people say that opposites attract.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Psychologists pointed out that “opposites attract” is a myth, and that the greater the similarities between two people, the greater the attraction.
Those opposite partners actually have a lot in common as they discover the characteristics, identity, and life situations that aren’t visible at the time as they were still getting to know each other.
In the phase of “getting to know,” the opposite aspects will intrigue you because you don’t have what they have, or they don’t have what you have. But the real attraction and complimentary isn’t in the opposite aspects but in similarities.
Vise versa could also happen.
Opposites do not always attract.
People with visible similarities may wonder why they never got attracted to each other or have never built a bond well together.
That could mean that the polarity of their aspects is dominating and are just not visible at the moment.
A change of traits can also trigger changes in the connection between people. It could lead to growing apart if one of them changes mindset or aspects of themselves that majorly opposes the other.
Now, enough with the chemistry and attraction between two people.
Let’s talk about the law of attraction within you.
You Attract Who You Are
Years ago, before I got into my self-growth journey, my life was mostly going through endless dramas.
I even questioned the world, “Why do I always get entangled with complicated situations and people?”
I was just waiting for life to turn around itself.
I thought that life is just about surviving.
When life has hit me hard to the point that I had no choice but to be awakened and do something, I slowly realized that I was in autopilot.
I realized that the answer was just within me, and it’s the same thing that got myself into getting submerged in dramas.
I realized that life isn’t what happens to you, but it’s actually what you do on what happens to you.
Life is actually more than just about surviving.
When I started working on myself, learn the things I needed to have a good life, things have slowly turned on my favors too.
I’ve attracted good opportunities, good relationships with people, generally good ways of life.
The Universe is always on our side, it’s just waiting for us to do our part – love ourselves.
But I tell you…
It’s not that the dramas and bad circumstances have faded, there will always be negatives out there. The law of polarity in life always exists. Denying those things will just make me more like a robot and not human.
But what I’m telling is my focus has shifted to things that are good for me and the people around me, so at the end of the day love and peace will always win.
When you change your mindset, you change your circumstances.
Your outer reality will synchronize with your inner reality.
If you are toxic, you will easily be attracted to toxic people.
You’ll tend to recognize more of your kind rather than a different kind.
If you take your time to become the best version of yourself, you will get attracted to the best people for you.
If you want to find the right person for you, working on being the right person first is the key.
This does not only apply to relationships.
It does apply to everything.
If you want to attract happy things in your life, work on your optimism, gratitude, and kindness to people.
Same goes for routines;
If you consistently eat processed foods, junk foods, soda, anything unhealthy in your daily, you also attract unhealthiness in your life – more prone to diseases and mental health issues.
Or if you habitually choose to listen to sad and depressing songs, you generate low vibrational emotions which leads to gloomy moods – and gloomy moods could radiate to people around you.
Or if you intentionally make the habit of recognizing the best traits and good things about your partner, spouse, or the relationship itself, the happier and more meaningful your connection will be.
Being at peace and happy in life is not something that just happens to you, it’s more of something that you choose to do and to keep it that way.
It is a choice.
Think about these two activities;
Let’s say you have to choose only one of them and commit to it for 30 days.
Activity number one:
(warning: don’t dig in with the words, just read)
For 30 days straight, think about all the things you never have. Think about all the failures you had as much as you could remember. Think about the mistakes you committed and all your guilt in the past. Think about the embarrassing moments you could never forget. Think about the moments when someone cheated on you. Think about how your income is never enough to get what you really need and want. Think about those people who are so much ahead of you that makes you feel you have never done enough in your life, and those people who make you feel less.
Activity number two:
For 30 days straight, think about your genuine friends. Think about how beautiful the weather is today. Think about the delicious food you’ve eaten in the previous meals. Think about your abilities or the things you’re capable of doing that other people aren’t. Think about how your family loves you or how adorable your children are or how your partner makes you crack up with their funny jokes. Think about how cute your puppy or your cat is when they’re wining for food. Think about how much enough of an income you have to support your basic economical needs. Think about how loved you are by someone.
Now, choose wisely.
Life is a choice.