I have always dreamed of a good future.
Well, who doesn’t?
Every year I always wanted to set a new year’s resolutions,
but I never seem to make it real. Lol
I plan this and that for a significant change, but I never seem to know how to start.
Until I realized, while I keep the big picture, I have to detach from it.
Due to my passion in personal development books,
I discovered things that opened my eyes,
such as how to form new habits – the right way.
My daily habits are the ones that create my future, not by doing the big thing in one shot.
“Doing a little bit everyday has a greater impact than doing a lot on one day. A little bit everyday is enough to grow into a lifelong foundational habit.”Stephen Guise
Our Habits Are The Framework of Our Life
Our habits are the framework of our life,
so to ignore and underestimate them is a big mistake.
To start the change you want,
the first thing you have to do is recognize your daily routines.
How do you face the day as you wake up in the morning?
How do you start the responsibilities of the day?
How do you spend your free time?
How do you connect with others?
Start having an awareness of both good and bad routines to determine the ones you want to deal with.
How Habits Are Formed
Habits are not directly accessible.
We can’t just create it right away or remove one.
They are built by consistency.
Consistency is the language of the subconscious mind.
Once you repeatedly do something daily,
it will form a neural pathway in the subconscious mind over time.
It’s just like practicing or driving a vehicle the first time.
There are many things to put your attention; the steering wheel, the clutch, the break, the mirror, the headlights, the turn signals, and so on.
If you practice once in a while, you’ll never totally master driving.
But if you consistently practice daily,
the repeated actions taken will create neural pathways and will be molded into a pattern or habit.
You will notice that driving will become automatic in your instincts,
because once a habit’s assigned neural pathway is triggered by a thought or external cue,
you’ll have an urge to engage in the habitual behavior.
what if the habit you want to form is too much for your willpower (e.g., exercising, going to the gym, running.)
It’s actually easy, no worries! *blinks*
You just have to be patient,
because it takes time… and CONSISTENCY!
So, here it is.
How to Build a Habit the Right Way
In the book The Genie Within,
it took me a while to understand what Harry Carpenter meant about “the law of reverse effort.”
It has an equation, and it was like this:
Conscious Mind Power = Subconscious Mind Power
1 = 1
2 = 4
3 = 9
Carpenter explained that the more effort you put into your will,
the more the power of your imagination increases at an escalating rate.
The more you consciously will something,
the more you increase the opposing power.
So, the trick is “not to will” what you want.
After reading Stephen Guise’s book, Mini Habits, their ideas resonated,
and that’s when I truly understood what Carpenter meant when it comes to forming habits.
“You will be able to do it if the resistance you felt was not stronger than your resistance.” Guise said.
The trick is to set a very simple goal, but consistent.
Your daily goal should not exceed with your willpower,
or else your mind will create imaginations that the action is too heavy for you to perform – which leads you to laziness and procrastination.
you want to form the habit of running.
Set a mini goal, mini to the point that it’s almost stupid such as walking to your garage or gate.
If you want to walk further or run a kilometer,
do it as long as your main goal is walking to your garage.
So, if you don’t want to walk further because you’re busy or just not motivated at the moment,
it’s still a win-win because the main goal was done.
You just have to set a goal that is too easy for you to fail.
Set a goal that no matter what circumstances, you can still perform it because it’s too easy.
The reason for this strategy is to achieve consistency.
Consistency is the language of the subconscious mind.
Do it daily, and from there, you’ll eventually form the habit.
Another example is Stephen Guise’s mini habit of exercise.
He started with one push-up daily.
If he’s in a hurry, he would even do it in bed, or in a grocery store.
It’s too easy that he can do it anywhere, anytime!
If he has a lot of time and feels like doing more, he would go to the gym or go running.
As long as his mini habit is performed without skipping a day, it’s a win-win.
After half a year of his mini habit, he’s now going to the gym out of habit.
How Many Mini Goals Should We Focus On
Most experts suggest that it’s ideal to focus on only one goal.
I recommend that too.
But based on my experience, you can do more than one – preferably three.
According to Guise, you should not do more than three goals at the same time.
The mini habits require willpower to start up, and if you do more than three goals, you’ll probably forget the fourth one – which will lead to disappointment.
Having a mindset of “win-win” is very important,
so it’s much better to just focus on only one or up to three to avoid disappointment.
Related Post: Steal The Enemy’s Weapon
How to Eliminate Bad Habits
According to Harry Carpenter,a concept cannot be eliminated.
The habits formed in the subconscious mind are embedded, and your subconscious mind does not forget.
when you develop a stronger opposing concept,
the subconscious will eventually give up the dominant one.
If a bad habit is empowered by a new opposing pattern,
the subconscious will give up the old one.
So, the bottom line is – do not try to eliminate.
Instead, focus on building up the opposing concept.
Focus on building good habits until you will run out of time for the bad ones.
For example, you want to develop the habit of eating healthy foods.
Focus on your mini habit of eating an apple a day or including a banana in your meals – and you can still eat donuts, drink soda, or any processed foods whenever you want.
I have also discussed this in Steal The Enemy’s Weapon that you can procrastinate the unhealthy habits instead of the good ones.
By focusing on the healthy ones, you will learn to love them more than the unhealthy ones over time.
The more you focus on them, the less you will take time on the opposing one.
The less you will take time on something, the less you care about them.
start having an awareness of all your habits and make a list of what you want to form.
Apply these tips, and it’ll change your life.
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